This is Ron with your Motivational Message:
Mother’s Day should be every day! I can’t imagine what this world would be like if it were not for mothers. I want to take this opportunity to say, “you are awesome!” May your day be filled with love, joy, and a big bouquet of happiness.
My mind is full of truly wonderful memories of the experiences I enjoyed with my mom. I feel a sense of sadness as I write this blog; it is difficult to be without my mother on such a special day. When my mother went to be with Jesus four years ago, my heart broke and I was filled with overwhelming loss. As part of my therapy in dealing with the grief, I wrote a tribute to her.
If writing personal thoughts about my mother wasn’t hard enough, I took it a step further and made a choice to read the tribute at my mother’s memorial service. As hundreds of people filed into the church to celebrate her life, I came close to bailing out because it seemed too painful. It was not like any other speech and I came close to not sharing it because it seemed too painful. It was extremely emotional, yet through my tears I was able to pull it off. Looking back, I would say, it was the most meaningful presentation that I had given in all my life.
Sometimes we wait thinking that there’s always more time, but before it’s too late, let’s tell those we love how much they mean to us. So grab a pencil and paper (not to mention a handful of tissues) and take a few minutes to write something personal to your mother. Before you begin your letter of love, I would encourage you to read my tribute to my mother, Theresa. This is near and dear to my heart, as well as private and personal, but I feel that it will inspire you.
Instead of buying just another card that someone else wrote, maybe it’s time to sit down and send your mother a letter of love from your heart, as you ponder the life of your mother.
Before reading my tribute, I hope you enjoy this video featuring a clip of my wonderful mother. She would tease me that if I didn’t paint she wouldn’t feed me. Haha, 🙂 [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6PJCcM7oq4[/youtube]
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The Legacy of my Mother, Theresa
MY MOTHER was the most unselfish person I have ever known. She took pride in helping others; always going the extra mile.
My mother was grateful and proud of what God gave her. She cleaned her house daily (most of it was picking up after my father). She took pride in cooking and baking healthy, fabulous meals. She sewed everything you could imagine; she painted, sculpted and worked hard for her employers.
My mother loved camping and she made sure all of us kids got numerous wonderful outdoor experiences. From setting up camp to gathering firewood, fishing, hiking, roasting hotdogs and marshmallows and telling stories around the campfire.
My mother never failed to look beautiful. She always fixed her hair and wore very little makeup to illuminate her deep blue eyes,
her soft cheeks and gorgeous lips. Mom took good care of her teeth and when she smiled it was like the sun coming out; it just warmed your soul.
My mother was known to get things done and she wasted very little time. If she was helping my dad and he was moving too slow he would turn around to say something and she would be already off doing something else.
My mother loved to work outdoors and she took pride in having a big garden and a gorgeous flower bed. Her favorite flower was the rose and as a young boy I remember her describing the many blessings of the rose. From its soft delicate petals, its brilliant
colors, the smell of its sweet fragrance, to the fresh kisses of water drops magnifying the colors. My mother will forever be my rose.
My mother could heal anything with her gentle touch and her warm hugs could make any pain go away. She also had a special way of knowing when we needed her. One time when I was trying to get my masters degree in san Diego mom called out of the blue and asked; “How ya doing Ronnie?” I said “just great mom! How are you?” After a brief silence she softly asked, “how are you really doing?” I burst into tears and sobbed “TERRIBLE MOM, JUST TERRIBLE!”
My mother loved my father and he loved her. From the time I was a kid I remember them hugging kissing, laughing and boy could they dance! Everyone would stop and watch my dad gracefully and tenderly sweeping his Cinderella across the floor. She loved to travel taking in the beauty of God’s creation and her favorite trips were romantic cruises with my father.
My mother loved animals and she would tell me that her all time dream was to have her own animal shelter, but if you ask dad he would say she DID have one. Bless his heart he put up with a lot of animals, numerous dogs and cats, pigs, chickens and we all remember her vicious rooster. She also had birds, sheep, lamas, rabbits squirrels, chipmunks and even a skunk. Her favorite was a turkey named thumper, a dog named Sampson and a little green Quaker named pretty bird. That bird would fly around the house saying praise the lord, praise the lord! To be honest it freaked me out because it would sometimes land on my head and I would have to try to nod it off. Oh I forgot, in case you didn’t know 50 % of these animals slept in mom and dads bed. Boy, isn’t that romantic!
My mother loved her family and she was always there for her kids even though 2 of them caused her a lot grief (I can’t say who they were but one of them was not mike). Mom felt our pain and never gave up on us. She believed in us all the way to the end. As most of you know she took over my care when I broke my neck 28 years ago. She was determined to see me through my ordeal and she always told me that with God there are no accidents, only incidents. She stayed up all night if necessary so I would not choke on my respirator. For 4 years she dedicated her life to me and if it wasn’t for her loving hands I surely wouldn’t be here testifying of her love today. She gave me and showed me my never give up attitude and I will be forever grateful for the gift of life, love, hope, motivation, and inspiration she blessed me with.
My mother loved to laugh and each of us has our own special story. The two that stand out the most for me are what I call the lawn mower story and when I filled my pants. On a sunny spring day mom and I sat basking peacefully in the sun at our log home in Brownsville. The silence was broken when dad proudly rolled by on his riding lawn mower. Looking at us all cool in his big straw hat he gave a little wave. Distracted by his bathing beauty he didn’t see the sturdy apple tree branch. Wham dad was knocked clear off the seat and landed with a thug on his backside. Dazed and confused he stood up staggering too gain his balance. Suddenly he realized the lawn mower was racing- on its own- still mowing-straight towards the river bank! Like a drunken sailor he franticly took off running for the mower Thank God dad made it just in time to save the his day. By this time mom had completely lost it… tears rolled down her cheeks as she laughed hysterically Dad hunch over holding himself up to catch
his breath heard the laughter He yelled oh sure Terry jean thanks a lot.
My mother also loved camp attitude and she believed that children with disabilities should be able to experience the outdoors like her family did. She was the first person to come along side my dream and help and because of her a fully wheelchair accessible camp is now a reality. Her favorite job at the camp was to be the official weed terminator. She would spend hours spraying the trails & flower beds to make them beautiful.
My Mother also loved her friends and family. I want to say thanks to my family for all they have done for my mother.
Pennie Jean-my sister- you are an angel and I am so proud of you. My heart is full of gratitude for you. You were there for Moms every need and you are the greatest nurse I have known next to mom herself. Thank you for being at her side day in and out. You demonstrated to all of us what true love is all about.
Michael Clifford , my brother- what a tender spirit you possess. The way you touched mom and softly massaged her weary muscles was amazing. When you hugged her and kissed her I felt the deepness of your heart for our mother. Thank you for being there for her and for me. What a wonderful man you have become.
Ronald Charles Heagy Sr…my amazing father, thanks for showing me what a man does when his wife is hurting. Dad you took care of my mom 24-7. You were there every step of the way. You were tender and compassionate doing anything and everything to care for your bride. Because of you mom maintained her dignity and self respect. You cleaned, vacuumed, did laundry, dusted, mopped, scrubbed toilets doing everything imaginable for your wife. Thanks dad for being a true Godly man. I am and always will be proud to be your son. May God bless you, hold you and strengthen you through the lonely times in the future. Dad we all love you very much!
Kelli my beautiful wife- you are truly the love of my life. Thank you for being there for me and the family, for taking such good care of me so I could be by my mom. Because of you my mom can rest in peace knowing you will be there for me. I love you so much!
To our friends and families, mom loved you dearly and we as a family are forever grateful for all you have done for all the calls, notes, flowers and all the special meals you shared with our family, we want to say thank you from the bottom of our hearts for being there. You have no idea how much it means to us. As you know my mother loved Jesus and God’s word. She walked by faith and she ran her race to win and now she has received her prize. She lived, laughed, loved and most of all …she left a legacy.
Theresa Jean Heagy will live on through her family, friends and all who knew her. The world is a better place not because she
lived but because she-lived-well.
Thank you my precious mother for giving me life meaning and purpose. Thanks for believing in me. I am truly grateful for your wisdom, encouragement, inspiration, motivation and enthusiasm for life. I will painfully miss
you. Thank you from the depths of my soul for being my mother, my mom my best friend…
Mom looks forward to being with us for eternity.
May we all leave with the love of Jesus in our hearts. Again we thank you for being here may God bless you
Lovingly written by Ron Heagy Jr. on 4/24/08